Changing the landscape of health care delivery, one patient, one encounter, one moment at a time
Breaking the Bonds of Suffering
January 27, 2020
Transform your suffering and trauma into love, light, and wisdom. This powerful program offers individual and group support through a guided program series of videos, lessons, intuitive guidance and akashic records as you journey into the depths of your story line. Here you will learn of your individual and family's ancient roots of suffering, and how that story line has played out into your current situation in life. We will use multiple therapeutic techniques to bring your whole being into a state of balance, harmony, deep self love and grace.
Ask any woman to tell you her truth, her hidden story; and you will likely hear a story of hidden pain; a struggle through abuse, fear, inequality, injustice, oppression, or violence. With the rise of the "Metoo Movement", women and men began to bravely bear their pain openly, sharing their wounds; and thus beginning a long process of healing. What is often unseen, is the depth of the physical, mental, and emotional scars left behind from those traumatic events.
Over the years of providing healing services, we have noted a significant trend in our work here at Maya; nearly all of the women who come here to heal have abuse and violence as the underlying story beneath their chronic illness. The history of abuse is the catalyst that burns within the body, harboring illness and disease. In this time of unprecedented discovery and openness of the atrocities committed against women, there is a need for deep healing; for women, in our communities, culture, and society. Where will this healing come from? How will we mend the broken hearts, bodies, and souls individually and collectively? Our health care system is woefully inadequate to meet any such need, and it is not designed to deliver wellness of the heart and soul.
Over the last few years, through our work across multiple communities, we have met or spoken to thousands of women across the country whose mental, emotional, and physical health have drastically deteriorated as a result of abuse, aggression, and violence. Women who give their hearts to care for a loved one in the home with Dementia or Alzheimer's disease, frequently experience abuse and violence (non -intended); and while the violence is due to the loved one's illness, the effects of the violence remain. Women in the work place continue to experience harassment, aggression, and threats, jeopardizing the stability of their employment. Women in their own homes are threatened, beaten and battered by a spouse or partner; leaving them no safe haven. These stories of abuse occur with outrageous frequency; every minute 20 individuals are victims of domestic violence in the US; leaving 10 million abuse victims annually!
Through our work with women at Maya, we know that it is the deeply rooted trauma underneath the disease that manifests into the chronic illness, pain, depression, anxiety, fear, and PTSD being presented.
Maya has always been in the midst of woman's suffering. These women, and their stories of violence, draw our breath in, and make our chest tighten. We have held, cried, prayed, and grieved for each woman who has passed through our hearts and doors; with their stories of pain and their bodies collapsing. We have honoured these women; nourished them, ministered healing therapies, created herbal remedies, and provided safe haven and money when needed. When the women could not come here, we served them by phone, or we went to them. Maya has given all the resources we have to offer, and then when asked we gave more.
We are on a precipice at Maya; as more women are arriving or calling each day; asking for healing therapies, remedies, support, compassion, and love.
As an organization committed to creating and leading compassionate healing care; we are fully aware of the magnitude of this suffering, and we find a way to rise to this need and remain the sacred healing space these women seek. As a low profit center, we have few reserves to the growing need; yet we will not turn away women who seek our help. Thus, with our heart fully open and trusting in the compassion and love of others; we are launching "Healing Our Hearts" Campaign. The intention of this campaign is to raise funds through the sale of our healing products, to provide integrative therapies, herbal remedies, ongoing support, and safe haven for those women in need. We are asking for your support in helping us to heal the heart, body, mind, and soul of each woman who requests our services. Each purchase from our shop is a gift is uniquely created at Maya, designed to offer healing . Please click below to purchase your Healing Hearts gift, and know that in so doing, you are supporting women in desperate need of healing.
With immense blessings of love, gratitude and light; we thank you for your support.
Become A Member: Dementia Compassion Campaign
March 22, 2018
As a primary caregiver of a loved one with Alzheimer's disease or dementia, the Dementia Compassion Campaign is designed to support your health and well-being through promoting self love, self care, and self compassion.
Membership allows you access to all services and support, including opportunity to apply for funds to support your self care.
Annual membership: $100.00
Two year membership: $175.00
*Membership limited to primary caregivers of loved ones with Alzheimer's disease and/or dementia.
The Dementia Compassion Campaign, launched in 2018 by Dr. O'Conor, founder of the Maya Institute offers an innovative healing community that delivers extensive support, healing modalities, interactive educational webinars, and professional wisdom; all brought directly into the home of the primary caregiver through the use of internet based private forums, webinars, video libraries, and phone support. In addition, it is our intention to offer financial grants to support the primary caregivers in maintaining their health and well-being by providing funds for an outside caregiver and funds to pay for wellness and self-care therapies.
Dr. O'Conor's story as the primary caregiver for her mother and father exemplifies the struggles caregivers face each day, and outlines the crucial need for services and support for primary caregivers of loved ones with Alzheimer's disease and/or dementia:
"My mother has end stage Alzheimer’s Disease at the age of 81. She drastically deteriorated over the last year; losing 50 pounds of weight, losing her ability to speak in coherent sentences or find proper words, and losing recognition of family and most objects. The biggest challenge is her care, her loss of emotional control, profound suffering and emotional instability. My days never really begin or end; they are one long continuous series of light and dark periods. Some days are smooth, but most of them are really rocky, unsettling, and challenging. She fluctuates through periods of inconsolable crying, distress, and anguish; to anger and rage; and to anxiety and abject fear. With these changes in her behavior, came loss of sleep and profound exhaustion.
I am a trained medical professional, certified as an expert in dementia and elder care. After completing my doctorate in epidemiology, I founded two health care organizations and successfully managed two senior care facilities in rural New England. With nowhere for them to be cared for and no one to turn to but me, I left that career to provide full-time care for my parents at home. With decades of experience and training, I could’ve never imagined that I would lose all sense of myself in this process. Nor did I realize the degree to which my own physical and emotional health would get compromised, along with the financial damage I incurred.
The more care I gave, the faster my own needs were placed on the back burner (including managing myself, home and my bills). I remember two brutal months for us, early this year. My father was hospitalized for an emergency appendectomy at the age of 91. He became septic and required an extended hospital stay. He developed post-operative delirium, and I was called to return to the hospital at midnight as he was delusional and aggressive. While the staff understood about my mother, they insisted I return to stabilize my father. The question on my mind at that time was: “How the hell am I supposed to do that at midnight, with the care my mother required?” It was impossible to be two places at once, so I had to start making calls. With no family nearby and my best friends far away, it took hours to find a neighbor willing to come over and stay with her while I returned to the hospital to be with my father. After stabilizing him, I drove home and got two hours of sleep before mom had me up again.
He came home a few weeks later, at which point I unknowingly entered into an impossible balance act. His delusions progressively worsened, confusing some of his military/work career, and insisting we were unsafe and that we had to get guns for protection. Meanwhile, my mother was hysterical and emotionally distraught and pacing up and down the hall. I remember sobbing one morning, barely able to breathe because I was so exhausted and anxious. My thoughts were racing, wondering how I was going to possibly manage all of this. During those subsequent weeks, I ignored my own health, having no time to consider my needs of proper rest, adequate nutrition, or any down time to myself. Within a few short weeks after my father’s return home I was hospitalized three times for emergency surgery and multiple complications."
The sad truth is that this story is not uncommon among the primary caregivers of their loved ones with dementia. Loss of health, stability, job, and finances are the frequently reported outcomes for those who choose to care for our loved ones with dementia. The facts are this;
1. Alzheimer’s Disease is the 6th leading cause of death in the United States.
2. It is currently estimated that 5.7 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s Disease.
3. These estimates are anticipated to triple by the year 2050.
4. Sixteen million Americans provide unpaid care for their loved ones with Alzheimer’s disease at home.
5. These caregivers provide an estimated 18.4 billion hours of care per year (2017), valued at 232 billion dollars of unpaid care hours just last year alone.
Of those primary caregivers, the majority of them (67%) are women. It has been well documented in the medical literature, that these caregivers sacrifice their health, family dynamics, career, and finances in order to manage their loved one’s care. As a result, these caregivers suffer from chronic stress, anxiety, exhaustion, depression, isolation, increased health concerns, and financial devastation.
One of our primary goal is to ease the burden of the primary caregiver providing care for a loved one with dementia. We intend to achieve this goal through our the Compassion Campaign which offers love, compassion and support to primary caregivers, along with financial support.
Our campaign supports caregivers in promoting their personal health and well-being through support, insight, wisdom, guidance, and knowledge in promoting self-compassion through self-care during one of the most arduous aspects of their lives being primary caregivers for their loved one.
The Compassion Campaign for Caregivers includes the following components:
* Interactive Communication with online forum, video conferencing, and monthly webinars
* Education & Training into chronic fatigue, stress, and exhaustion with video library and webinars on restorative yoga, meditation, mental reprogramming and other modalities supporting stress reduction.
* Guest lectures with professional leaders, educators, healers with wisdom on the challenges in self care, difficult life journeys, and healing therapies.
* Training in self compassion and compassionate care.
* Compassion Fund: will provide funds for a secondary caregiver to cover care, while the primary care giver takes time for necessary self-care. Primary caregiver’s self-care will be funded as well. Funds will be made available through membership fees and by donation.